What is that anyway? You could say it’s the search for the perfect start… as if perfection could be found in anything other than the lack thereof. To me, it always goes away by beginning to blab about something. Those of you that know me, have fallen prey to the endless monologues and pointless “word vomit” as my sister calls it; however, I have come to respect myself for it. I mean, I have “attempted” my entire life to define and re-define myself to somewhat “fit-in” around others and seem relatively normal. The fact is… I don’t like to consider myself “normal”, it is such a boring term; I prefer to categorize myself as a dreamer. For the nerds in the audience like me, you’ll appreciate that, later in life I had to realize that to be “normal” i.e. to fit a normal distribution, one does not have to be “average”. It is entirely acceptable to be an outlier, and by definition, for a normal distribution to look like that nice bell-shaped curve we all like to see, the data set must contain all sorts of variation; up to six standard deviations away from the “average”… the point is, that for humans to be normal, we can’t be average. But, we are all similar enough to where we can start finding what makes us average in one area, below average in another but extraordinary in yet another. It is this last category we’ll spend most of our time on. Being extraordinary.
What does dreaming mean to you? I define dreaming as going within… Think about it, you go to sleep and then your relatively “unconscious” brain starts playing a film to you. Since I was a little boy, I always dreamt vividly, I dreamt I could fly, about adventures, at times had horrible nightmares, but in general loved to dream and tell myself and others my stories. At a very early age I got obsessed with the term “day dream”. The term was generally used by adults with a negative connotation as if doing it were a waste of time… To me, it sounded WONDERFUL! I mean, you tell me I can be awake and imagine stuff? Watch my stories and adventures while I’m awake? How… how can I make my brain do this I asked myself. Quite simple actually, you kind of have to start closing your eyes and tell yourself to “imagine”. It is relatively easy to imagine what we would like our lives to be like… just think what would make you happy, I mean really happy, not worrying about how much it costs or how to get the money, but just allowing yourself to define your dreams by what makes you fired up inside, by what you really like to DO… Basically, your brain (that one organ that has us convinced it is ALL of us) is a nebula of noise, ideas, pictures, words, and emotions all fighting for your attention. It is our jobs as maturing humans to teach our mind to filter through the noise and present our entire being with an experience similar to that of an observer. As we release our anxieties, work on our passions and define ourselves purely, we allow nature to take its course, we create space for others with similar passions and goals to come into our lives and co-create. This is a very important aspect of our species. We invent, we make dreams come true… and the best of dreams that become reality are those where the dreamer can release control of the exact way the dream will materialize. Dreamers that share their ideas and allow others to contribute, usually end up with a richer more profound solution. We’ll talk in other posts about what it takes to allow yourself to dream, to teach yourself discipline, to let go of what no longer serves you, and to hold on to all that is precious; all when appropriate, for your particular journey.
To all my fellow dreamers: Thank you for vividly providing color to the world. To all aspiring dreamers: Please allow yourself the freedom to imagine with no strings attached, allow yourself to fail and to embrace the fact that you are a creator. Only you hold the limits to your creativity. Your body may never take you further than the chair you sit in, but your imagination can take you anywhere, please let it take you as far from here as possible, and from that place of solitude come back and share with all of us your light, passions, and dreams. There are more brothers and sisters out there than you know, waiting to help you on your soul’s journey to true success.
If you haven’t already, I suggest you pick up a copy of “Peter Thiel’s – Zero to One”. In it you will find encouraging text about our times, and our unique ability to contribute to a better world. I hope that you find that area in your life that matters the most to you. And that your focus, training and hard work pay off so that you may bring your brightest self to the world.